In the last couple of weeks, I’ve been busy facilitating growth mindset workshops at work, as a learning & development practitioner. I didn’t know that my vacation, supposed to be away from work, would give me the best lessons and application of what I’ve been talking about. Now, I’m all for personal development, but diving? That’s a whole other level of “out of my comfort zone.” This ad-hoc application of practice what you preach is such an eye-opener that I will certainly bring back when I get the chance to talk to my session participants in the future.
An Unlikely Diver
I am reluctant even using the word “diver” in this post. Picture me: a 31 year-old who cannot even swim without floaters, who cannot even take cold showers, trying to be comfortable in the open water. To add, I freak out when my imagination gives me an image of sea snakes popping out of corals and then struggling to find my way up or maybe even just staying conscious at that moment. Now you can possibly imagine how huge it is for me to even consider a hobby like this.
Dive-in, Literally
My wife found this new interest in free diving a year ago, after watching a couple of friends do it. As supportive as I can be, I joined her in her dive lessons and fun dives in Batangas, said yes when she wanted to purchase diving accessories, and I think the biggest step was actually trying it myself after a couple of nudges from her. I took an intro training, went down a couple of feet underwater through cables, and had a few practice dives — and I thought that was it. I gave it a shot, extended my self a little bit, and then validating my initial thoughts that it’s not for me. My wife still kept nudging from time to time and my response would always be “I’ll be there with you, I just won’t do it“.
Now, we have this what have been an annual trip with college friends, and since all of them has this new-found love of the deep, the highlight of the itinerary was to brave a couple of WWII Japanese shipwrecks and enjoy not just the crystal-clear waters of Coron, Palawan. My wife, being relentless for me to try again, made sure I come well-equipped with flippers, mask, and snorkel, “just in case” I find myself bewitched by the enticing pictures of the shipwrecks and beautiful dive spots in front of my face. In the moment, I found myself just giving in, armed with just the thought “at least, I tried”, without much will to emerge back in the surface with satisfaction.
Mindset Check, Unexpected Lessons
I came to this trip to unwind, recharge, and bask in the tranquil beauty of Palawan. At this moment, relaxation meant embracing a laid-back approach, picturing gentle sway of hammocks, the soothing melodies of crashing waves, and the soft caress of the island breeze. I don’t know if I am creating a “loser face” as I hold on to the buoy while watching them dive one by one, and if so, it will be hard to tell because of the snorkel and mask that I’m wearing.
Coach Joreb and Gilbert kept approaching me giving mini lessons on breathing. I will indulge a little bit though still not convinced to even submerge my head. I got finning lessons around, and I feel like I’m doing it in respect of their genuine intent to help out and help me enjoy the trip, so I do as they say.
Their persistence in pushing led to me taking a few trips around the area without the buoy, and I started to feel good. The moment came when they asked me if I would try to dive. I had to quickly think about what I’ve been doing in the last couple of hours, and reluctantly, I said “Yes”. I heard cheers and assurances that they will be watching. Honestly, it felt good.
As I descended into the azure abyss, I couldn’t help but feel a surge of apprehension. With each breath, each fin kick, I confronted my doubts with the thought that I just need a couple of seconds and I will be okay. My first attempt at the Barracuda Lake is all that I needed. I as I emerged back into the surface, I was welcomed with cheers. I know it wasn’t a good dive but I heard my friends say that it was a brave attempt and I began to embrace the challenge one dip at a time.
Making the Idea Happen
We continued moving one dive spot after another. Some really calm and peaceful, and one with a combination of the swirling currents and sun-dappled waters. In one spot, I found myself gliding alongside my wife, hand in hand, as we explored the beauty hidden underneath the busy waters. I can see how proud she is — I can hear her cheers as I come up recovering for breath, but I must say it really felt good. It might be a glimpse of a dream come true, and who knows, maybe a beginning of a new-found adventure together.
Takeaways
So, what did I learn from this aquatic adventure? Well, for starters, never underestimate the power of a supportive close circle of friends and the willingness to try something new. I must say that “Never say never” is a good exercise in cultivating a growth mindset. As I was teaching the concept, I emphasize the power of the word “yet”. So whenever there is a challenge ahead, consider an empowering self talk: maybe it’s not something familiar yet, but I will get there.
Indeed it’s about small steps, one breath at a time. I also found the value of detaching ourselves from the labels we give ourselves, our abilities, and even our likes and dislikes. The uncomfortable always presents itself as a threat but in having the willingness to listen and take in as much as you can from others, you can find yourself moving from your comfort zone, unlocking fears, being open to learning, and then rediscovering new depths and heights. I would also re-emphasize the great value that a supportive community brings in this process!
Sea You Again!
In this trip, I carry with me not only memories of stunning underwater landscapes but also a newfound appreciation for the resilience of the human spirit. So here’s to diving into the unknown, both figuratively and literally, and emerging stronger, wiser, and ready for whatever depths life may bring.
Until next time, keep exploring, keep growing, and never stop diving deep!